When I was 14, I watched The Notebook for the first time. And it rocked my world. I didn't know much about this movie, but I had heard a lot of people talking about it, which was all I needed to know that I had to see it. I had never experienced love (at age 14, good God, no one should) but when I saw this movie, I was convinced that this is what true love was. How could you not? It was portrayed so beautifully/cinematically/ with a perfectly scored soundtrack.
Since, I've grown up and realized that love is much more than screaming, slapping, chest-punching (followed by great sex where someone inevitably walks in), rubbing ice cream in each others' faces, being dangerously reckless by lying in trafficked streets and threatening to jump off a Ferris wheel if rejected from a date (in movie=adorable, in real life=deranged). You can't deny that they were passionate. But come on.
The media doesn't hide from 14 year-olds and I wish it had. The Notebook is an entertaining movie, no doubt, but it is not the image of love that a young, impressionable teenage girl should have; disobey your parents, have passionate, premarital sex, scream irrationally and use physical violence on your boyfriend, date two men at once. I watched it out of popularity and it wasn't entirely harmless. But if that was 14 year-old me's draw to The Notebook, can we expect 14 year-olds today to not be drawn to 50 Shades of Grey for the same reason?
I've heard many adult Christian women say that they don't agree with the movie or books, but want to go to the premiere "because they think it would be funny." Maybe you're at the point in your life where you feel like you're no longer impressionable and don't need to jeopardize your morals or convictions through simply watching a movie. But if for every 22 year-old woman who saw this movie, so did a 14 year-old, would we be more hesitant? Is this the image of love and the perception of sex that we want displayed to our next generation of men and women?
When a "love story" benefits the business of hardware stores across the nation with sales of cotton rope drastically increasing in reciprocity to the rising popularity of the books, we have to question what this storyline of bondage and sadomasochism is really teaching us about sex and how to act on our sexual desires. -- Additionally, sex injuries in the United States alone have more than doubled. The saddest part? Most find this funny.
Is it hypocritical to stand up against sexual and domestic violence yet find entertainment in watching over 20 minutes of on-screen sadism?
14 years-old is not too young to learn about the beauty and the purpose of sex. I was taught at a young age that sex is beautiful, natural, and something that is shared between man and wife. It serves a Christian purpose and is truly a gift from God.
It's difficult to predict where my morals would lie had the 50 Shades version of sex been my first perception of how a man is made to treat a woman.
As sons and daughters of Christ, we were designed for more. We were created to find happiness and fulfillment through true love, not mere pleasure through acting on impulsive desires and devouring eroticism.
Reading an erotic novel or watching an erotic film in search of arousal is not innocent. This is literally the definition and purpose of pornography.
The truest fear lies in the development of entertainment following the boom of 50 Shades of Grey. If this is what proves to sell in the box offices, is this the direction that all movies will inevitably follow? Is this the image of love that we want portrayed to our children and younger siblings?
If you'll stand up for anything, stand against this movement.